Saturday, 21 November 2009

Why Does My Ex Act So Cold to Me? Disastrous Mistakes You Are Already Making With Your Ex Right Now

You want to get back together with your ex but it seems that all of your pleas are turned to deaf ears. Your ex is giving you a cold shoulder. You wonder what you have done why your ex is suddenly cold to you. You are giving your ex messages that you are interested of getting back together alright but what you did not know is that you are probably giving the wrong messages to your ex. Here are the 10 biggest mistakes that you are making with you ex.

1. After a breakup, you should just contemplate on what just happened.

2. Your ex will appreciate it if you do not call up to ask what happened or why everything cannot be settled anymore. Your ex will really get irked if you constantly call him or her up.

3. Next, don't act as though you don't share the blame of why you had a bad relationship. You might be probably telling people that your ex should be blamed for the breakup.

4. Moreover, don't kiss and tell. Just because it is over between the two of you does not mean that you are ready to spill to the general public about your trysts. Have some decency.

5. Don't throw yourself at your ex's feet. The last thing that your ex will want to feel with you is pity.

6. Don't hover over your ex if you just recently broke up with him or her. Your ex will appreciate it if you give enough room for him or her to grow and heal wounds.

7. Don't replace your ex immediately. I know that most of us have a tendency to show off that we have moved on but don't be too hasty.

8. However, if your ex already found somebody to replace you with, be a good sport. Don't pick a fight with your replacement.

9. Don't be a sour grape. Your ex will definitely think that you have no better things to do because you sulk on him all the time.

10. Lastly, you might not be taking care of yourself. Even if you and your ex are not back together, he or she might still harbor feelings for you and your ex will probably hate it that you are not pulling yourself up together.

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The Mistake You Are Making With Your EX

The fatal mistake you're probably making with your EX is communicating to him/her that you're not BIG enough to handle a breakup.

Losing your cool, trying saving tactics like manipulation or breaking down by begging will do nothing to make you look attractive because these types of actions are unattractive. People feel pity towards a beggar and usually want to get the heck out of there. Wouldn't you want to escape a prison of tears?

Gathering up the troops by telling this person that you can't live without him/her is downright pathetic behavior and you're better than that! You deserve to live an amazing life with or without this person in your life.

Your emotions will find it hard to stop the fight but this is what you have to "will" yourself to do. When people are at war, there are many casualties - this battle for your EX because your heart is broken will immobilize you, causing you to be a casualty.

Is this the sort of power you want to assign to your EX? Do you want your EX to believe that he/she has so much power over you by seeing that your life is wrecked because someone left you? Good grief!

You must re-train your emotional mapping to learn to let detach from your EX. You do this by forming a different energy in your subconscious mind so that your conscious mind will release you from being at the mercies of your EX. You reprogram your subconscious mind by your words. Your words will then cause your thoughts to come into alignment and this will change how you feel.

Here are some ways to re-train: Start by telling yourself everyday that you are worthy of unconditional love and deserve a partner who will commit to you forever. Say it aloud:

"I am worthy of unconditional love."

"I deserve a partner who will commit to me forever"

"I deserve to be successful in love."

"I deserve a quality relationship that will last."

Now if you're just going to roll your eyes or mumble the words then you should not be in a relationship. You are not ready to have a relationship that will last. It if far better than the chaos you are now experiencing because of self hate. When you fall in love with yourself, you will feel complete and this kind of strength is what draws people in.

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